The tradition of gift-giving to celebrate a birth is hardly a new concept. However, recently there as been an increase in a particular kind of gift after the birth of a child called a “push present.” What is a “push present” you ask? It is a gift presented to a new mother from the new father as a little thank you. Push presents or baby baubles have become glamorized by celebrity couples and the media in the form of expensive and flashy jewelry, cars, etc. This has definitely created a polarizing conversation surrounding this trend. Here are some talking points from those who are in favor and those who oppose the “push present.”
The Ayes:
Those in favor of the “push present” gesture don’t necessarily think it needs to be lavish and expensive. This isn’t to say that there aren’t those who support this concept that are looking for a little bling to show off to their family and friends, but it can definitely be a simple, yet thoughtful gift to show appreciation to the mother for carrying the child and acknowledge the emotional and physical stress put on her body during pregnancy. These gifts can become heirlooms to be passed down to the child or they may be something solely for the mother’s enjoyment. Some new fathers look at “push presents” as an opportunity to show the mother of their child love and appreciation.Check out this great story of how a new father added a personal touch to the “push present.”
The Nays:
Those who oppose the “push present” trend, typically do so on moral grounds. They argue that the child is the most precious gift any mother could receive and to gift a material item to commemorate the event undermines the significance of the child. Also, if the gift given is pricey, why not spend that on much needed baby supplies or invest in a future college fund? Some new fathers feel like it is another gift-giving obligation that is being pushed on them, while woman are appalled at the idea that a mother needs anything more than the love and support of her partner.
We’d love to know, which side of the “push present” debate are you on?